Wednesday 1 May 2019

Struggle ~ Kushal Bose

Two struggling hearts can unite to form a soul which burns to ease the pain that might be eating the minds of the two individuals.

Struggle lives within us, so does pain and keeps on adding up as time flies, as we grow. The key is to not let it hover over your normal functioning of life and relationships with other humans. But sometimes we come across phases where we require more than just ourselves to light the way for us. Rest of the time, it is upon us to guide ourselves. And the times we do require the second person, we fall in love. We love them deeply even for the slightest act of kindness which they may have done just out of compassion? We keep them close to our hearts and avoid everything which may cause them to leave our hands. But we end them hurting them too. Why? because we take love for granted. No, not the person. We take the love we receive for granted. The person will still love us after they leave, but they will stop trying to prove their love. What is their to prove? You just love. You can't prove love. But you definitely show your efforts that you're trying to maintain a particular place in the person's life. And I think that's marvelous until we stop reciprocating. What makes us do that? I believe when we actually love, we can't fall out of it. And if you fall out of it, you didn't really love the person. You were just happy to be with the person but not in love. Love is underrated. Love is misunderstood and badly defined. Love does not bloom in a few days and is never unconditional, except of course parental love. Real love occurs gradually just like developing a hobby. But it's much more deeper than the perception of a hobby. Not to be taken so casually. Relationships require maintenance but love cannot be maintained. If you feel you're falling out of love, you never really loved. If you have really loved, the maintenance of your relationship will seem effortless. But well I have deviated already. Love is the only way to survive struggles, the wars inside your head and life. It is literally the only weapon you have. Stop confusing love with attention, millennials. Stop hurting people from whom you just want the likes, comments and attention from. Remember, love is when the person makes you forget about everything else when you're with them and they are ones who help you to get your life back o. track again. Else, you just want the attention. Love occurs unexpectedly, suddenly, without any guilt and will not sweep you off your feet but rather motivate you and hold you more firmly to your grounds to go on with your life, now more confidently. When you're with that person, you will feel like that's the only thing that matters and you will feel at your ease. Like nothing else matters anymore but make sure that the person does remind you that there is also a life to lead and he is with you to help you through that. Try the same for the person too but you will always feel you're not doing enough and that the person can do better. But don't be disheartened, just keep trying. Stop giving up. That's the most common mistake we make. There's plenty of fish in the sea but you have to find the fish who is willing to swim the sea for you and vice versa. You will not find the person unless you become a suitable one yourself. Be a person who is suitable enough for loving. Stop blaming people, stop breaking people. There is too much struggle in this world, in every human heart. Cherish the person who loves you, wants to be with you. Love, respect and heal the person. Do not let go of their hand. Do not tear apart the soul.